This is the continuation of a previous post - Relationships & Credit Cards - Part 1.
That question is a complex one to answer. A long time ago, I was in a relationship with someone who started taking me for granted. For some reason, he felt I had no other options. After I broke up with him, he began pursuing me with a tenacity rivalled only by a starving lion pursuing a deer in the forest. I was genuinely puzzled. When I was right there, he was devil may care. When I took my heart off the table, he turned to cupid’s cousin. I became appealing only after he could no longer have me. Personally, I don’t think wanting what we can’t have is a flaw in human nature. I do, however, think people use it as an excuse for their weaknesses and to justify selfishness.
Sometimes you don’t have to meet someone new to start taking your partner for granted. After all, you see and talk to each other almost everyday, and once you get used to it, you subconsciously start feeling your work is done. If that were true, the divorce rate wouldn’t be over 50%. Other times, you could meet someone new through work or somewhere else and they look shiny and exciting; and you start feeling like you’ve short-changed yourself in your current relationship but I think Tyler Perry said it best in Why Did I Get Married
about the 80/20 rule. Of course, this isn’t a set dynamic. It varies from relationship to relationship but before you head for that person you can’t have, you might want to stop and take a really long and hard look at the person right there in front of you.
When all is said and done, we must remember that as excited as Henry VIII was about each new woman, he did behead 2 of his wives, one of which he claimed was “The One” and whom he divorced his first wife for. Enough said!
Sometimes you don’t have to meet someone new to start taking your partner for granted. After all, you see and talk to each other almost everyday, and once you get used to it, you subconsciously start feeling your work is done. If that were true, the divorce rate wouldn’t be over 50%. Other times, you could meet someone new through work or somewhere else and they look shiny and exciting; and you start feeling like you’ve short-changed yourself in your current relationship but I think Tyler Perry said it best in Why Did I Get Married
about the 80/20 rule. Of course, this isn’t a set dynamic. It varies from relationship to relationship but before you head for that person you can’t have, you might want to stop and take a really long and hard look at the person right there in front of you. When all is said and done, we must remember that as excited as Henry VIII was about each new woman, he did behead 2 of his wives, one of which he claimed was “The One” and whom he divorced his first wife for. Enough said!
